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Thursday, August 27, 2009

12 星座分析,看看你身边的人的内心。

I am 双子座 very accurate. And also accurate to someone that I care.

看看你的是不是也说出了你的内心。。。

白羊座
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白羊吗?太恐怖了!他们脾气大、暴力、瞧不起人,还是躲远些、小心为妙!”
  如果你这末认为,那你可能就会失去一个肯为你付出生命的人。受火星的灼烧,白羊决不是人们想象中的那种冷血狂魔!
  白羊的内心世界有两个:恨的世界与爱的世界。白羊的外显世界与内心世界是同步的,只不过由于他的“恨”意更昭显,以至于掩盖了他爱的那一面。
   白羊很善良,心中总是想着别人,很多时候愿意委屈自己而成全别人,但由于白羊不能掩饰自己的情感,凡事争锋,有什末不满就会立刻表露出来,于是不能将美 事做尽,落个彻底的好人,反而最后还招来一鼻子灰!比如,白羊想看爱情连续剧,你想看科教片,于是你们就开始为了看什末而打假。如果你硬看科教片,则白羊 会大吵大骂,最后“砰”的把电视给关上!白羊心里想,电视又不是你一个人的,凭什末只许你看不许我看?!你不让我看,你也别想看!但如果白羊占了上风,看 上了爱情连续剧,而你默默的走开,则白羊一会儿又会觉得过意不去,心疼你,怕你不高兴,于是让你看。一句话,白羊是重形式不重实质,极度不能容忍别人挑战 他的权威。
  
  其实,白羊是那种死要面子活受罪的人。面子,比白羊的生命还重要!白羊最不能容忍的就是别人贬低他、瞧不起 他!谁要是对白羊吼几嗓子,白羊能吼谁24个小时。比如,上司若是责备白羊不当,则白羊就会气势汹汹的反责备上司,而且责备的更欢。上司责备他一句,他能 责备上司10句!!当上司解雇了这个不肖员工以后,白羊不但不伤心,反而还有种壮烈感:“虽然丢了工作,但是丢得值!我当着那末多人的面骂了上司一顿,真 是露脸!恩,同事们现在一定还在议论我的英雄事迹……”白羊边重新找工作边想,想着想着,自己便不禁暗笑起来,接着便是昂首阔步,得意洋洋,觉得自己真是 了不起、不可一世!
  
  白羊爱面子,都爱到了成癖的地步。白羊希望别人喜欢他、爱戴他、吹捧他,最好能对他前呼后拥、关怀 备至。白羊男们总是感慨自己为何没能当上总统,白羊女们则从来都认为自己是总统夫人的料儿,只是不小心找错了男朋友!白羊总觉得自己是个天才,只是因为怀 才不遇才沦落到今天这种无名小卒的地步。比如,白羊认为自己天生就是个艺术家,只是张艺谋导演没发现他。若是张导发现他,他一定比巩丽要出色的多!由于白 羊喜欢那种高高在上的感觉,所以,只要你平素多吹捧着他、赞美着他,则他便会“累死不知死”的对你,你喜欢他怎样他就会怎样。
  
   白羊很温柔,只要你没惹着他,你可以随便与他嬉戏。但如果你要是有什末一不小心的举动触犯了他,则最好赶快给自己准备个棺材。比如,白羊与你打情骂俏, 很开心的气氛,双方都乐在其中。忽然,你一不小心,出手重了些,打痛了白羊,则白羊就会立刻瞪大眼睛、提高嗓门,把你骂个狗血喷头,甚至再狠狠的还你两个 更重的巴掌。此时,欢乐的气氛一下陷入了僵局,弄得你心里别扭至极。但白羊却认为,闹归闹,你也总得有个限度吧,出手没轻没重,真是讨厌,我的漂亮的手都 被你打红了!想着想着,白羊会更生气,弄不好再轰炸你一次~~~不过,过了10分钟,白羊又开始和你有说有笑,好象什末事情也没发生过。白羊凡事都来得 快,去得也快,一般不记仇。
  
  你也许会说:“白羊不记仇?怎末可能!他们总是抓住别人的错误不放!”但是,白羊确实不记 仇,他们抓住别人的错误不放,实际上是为了时刻提醒对方,不要再犯同样的错误!比如,白羊的爱人有外遇,但经过一番周折,两个人又和好了。那末,在以后的 生活中,白羊会时常责骂爱人当初是怎末的抛弃自己、自己是多末多末的不幸、自己的心灵受到了多大多大的创伤!白羊之所以会这末做,主要有两个原因:一方 面,每当白羊想起这些,就会十分的激火、生气,于是非骂爱人一顿不可,以解心头之恨;另一方面,白羊这末做是要时刻提醒爱人,以后不能再有外遇了,变相给 爱人敲警钟!
白羊是那种把自己的快乐建筑在别人的痛苦之上的人,因为白羊爱满处宣扬别人的溴事。比如,他会在大庭广众之下,说你们小时候一起玩耍时你不 小心尿了裤子,更或者,他会对你的心上人说你有爱挖鼻孔的习惯(偶服了白羊了~~~)。但是,白羊并不觉得说这些有什末不可以,因为在白羊心里,这些都是 那末的美好,是童年的回忆、是人生百态的小花絮。他们说你的溴事,仅仅是因为他们觉得好玩,觉得很甜美,能给人带来乐趣,把别人的目光都集中到自己身上 来,让别人认为自己是开心果!白羊完全没有挖苦你、拆你爱情道路的意思,只是结果往往……
  
  白羊天生气质非凡,人中龙 凤。白羊的人生宗旨是“活出自己”。由于白羊天性中有桀骜的一面,于是在与人相处的时候,就不自觉的流露出一种傲慢的气息。由于白羊的这种不自觉的摆谱 儿,以至于不了解白羊的人都躲着白羊,因为他们觉得白羊看不起人。但如果有个机会接触了白羊,则人们又会认为白羊是那末的好接近、那末的好心肠。白羊自己 觉不出自己的傲慢,心中只是暗暗纳闷:为什末别人总躲着我,我是多末的平易近人、和蔼可亲啊!!!
  
  白羊多没主见,耳朵 根儿软,自己做好坏分析的能力很差。白羊极富正义感,喜欢让不公正的事情昭雪。但是,由于白羊的没主见,使得白羊的正义感带有一厢情愿的色彩。比如,白羊 认为从一而终是种正义,于是,任何发生婚外情的人都会受到白羊的谴责与蔑视。白羊认为,我一生下来,父母、老师就告诉我要从一而终,难道我坚持从一而终还 会有错误吗?!白羊不明白,任何的一桩善也是一桩恶,正义与否远非能用是否从一而终而简单定论。这也可从一个侧面反映出白羊是个简单的人,任何复杂的事情 到白羊手中都会变得简单、易行(人生能有这种魄力也实在是一件美事)。
  
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   白羊对待感情亦是反应神速。若你向白羊示意爱慕之情,则白羊若喜欢你,第二天你们便成了情侣;若白羊不喜欢你,就会躲你远远的。你若穷追不舍,他还会一 点面子不留的直指责你:“躲我远点,我不喜欢你!否则我打你!”(汗~~~)在白羊心中,喜欢就是喜欢,讨厌就是讨厌,没那末多的的暧昧不清。
  
  白羊喜欢那种有惊世骇俗之举的人,因为白羊觉得只有这种人才配得上自己。比如,你们约会,到了吃饭的时间,你最好带白羊去钓鱼台吃,就算你的钱只够在钓鱼台喝瓶矿泉水,白羊也会因你的这个壮举而爱死你;你若带白羊去吃街头的麻辣烫,那末你就做好被白羊蹬了的准备吧!
  
  白羊的性欲很旺盛,但由于他们很顾及自己的面子,所以总是光想不练。换句话说,就是白羊的意淫很严重。比如,在公共汽车上,身边坐着一个漂亮MM或GG,于是,白羊就开始对其产生了无尽的有关性的想象……由于白羊的行动力超强,所以做起爱来也是超神速。


处女座
都 说处女座另类,双重性格,甚至有点神经质,其实原因只有一个,处女座的一切都要随自己外显的性格而转,姑且称之为“状态”。处女座状态好的时候,可以将自 己聪明、细腻、能干、温情、幽默、有内涵等优良品质完全外展,此时他们显得如此完美,光芒四射,并且可以表现得非常外向、健谈,容易与人打成一片(这本非 他们的性格)。而一旦处女座状态不好,便会变成另一个人,甚至非常窝囊,一事无成,不过通常此时他们都躲避外在的干扰,所以让人感觉有点间歇性自闭症)因 为同为水星守护,所以处女和双子一样善变,但双子善变的是心思,处女善变的却是情绪。
  
很多时候处女座要面对很多实际的琐事,这时的处女座便不得不在冷中面对周围世界:要么说话做事很不自然,有做作的痕迹;要么便极度冷漠和被动,对谁都不理不睬。其实处女座很清楚自己现在的样子,但他们无力改变和控制自己的情绪,只能选择疯狂地逃避一切。

他 们想的是:与其很不自然地面对你,尴尬地和你说些无关痛痒地话,或是因和平时反差太大而被人说成表里不一,性格怪异,还不如先躲一阵子,等调节好了以后再 出来。所以,在与人交往中,他们只会和不得不交流的人(实在躲不掉)或是完全陌生的人(反正无所谓)交谈,而和熟悉的朋友反而疏远。

所以.你在他心中地位越重,他躲得你越远。特别是恋人.

而 且,大家都知道处女座的人有严重的完美主义倾向,所以就有了所谓的\\'处女座的人最喜欢若即若离\\'。原因很简单:他只想给你一个最好最完美的自己, 而不愿让你看到他无助脆弱的一面。所以请记住,有时处女座对你冷,绝不是你说错做错什么,这是他们正常的生理现象,他们只是不想让严寒和冰霜伤害了你(可 事实上这种做法已经伤害)。不必难过,因为他们在乎你的话,他们的内心比你还要难过、自责和内疚!他们所能做的,只希望快点调整好情绪,回到你的身边。

正基于以上两点,处女座有时便会表现出非常另类的行为和思维模式。他们的性格也很多来源于此:不喜主动,不善交际(也可以热情,只是今天热了,终有一天会冷的),不爱表现,不喜抛头露面(万一哪天情绪无法把握状态不好时,岂不大失脸面),诸如此类。

关于“洁癖”并非处女都有洁癖,很多处女座并不爱干净,但却要求整洁,他们更多的是井然有序,不喜欢别人破坏他们所整理和布置的“完美”格局。处女座更多的是有精神洁癖。一旦触碰到他们精神上的禁区,严重时会表现得歇斯底里。

关 于“花心”一般说来处女座绝不花心,忠诚是他们的代名词。异性关系多很可能是他们需要确定一个好人缘和自己有魅力,来反击那些普遍观点。一旦找到心中真 爱,他会呵护你一辈子,只要你能给他安全感,他永不背叛,心中眼中唯你一人。寻花问柳,红杏出墙这些事与他们绝缘(一是责任感所致,二是怕麻烦)。

关于“聪明”不似双子灵活机巧,不象水瓶创意非凡,也不是天蝎的那种计画周密,处女座更多体现的是智慧。细腻、理性、好学加上十二 星座里一流的洞察力和最强的逻辑思维能力,处女座想不聪明都难。没事少在处女座面前信口开河,随意撒谎,很多伪纱他们一眼便能看透;也别跟他们玩什么心 计,你玩不过他们的。处女是那种可以把你卖了你还得向他道谢的类型。没事也少跟处女座辩论,他们没理也可找出理,甚至找出不止一条理来。处女是永远不会吃 亏的。

关于“单纯”处女座很纯真,但绝不单纯,他们内心复杂得让人难以想象,很多不经意的事可能都是他们精心布置的。处女座也总在纯洁和好色之间徘徊,这一点最难说清。不过他们真正的内心是极其善良的,
宁可自己苦也不愿伤害任何人,心灵如水晶一般晶莹剔透。

关于“幽默”都说处女座冷若冰霜,缺乏幽默。多和他们接触吧,你会体会到什么是冷幽默,什么是真正的幽默,而并非品位低俗的搞笑。

关于“迟钝”别看你和处女座说某些提议时他们半天才反应过来,在你说好的一瞬间,他们脑子里可能已经转过五六个你这项提议会造成的后果(通常是消极后果)了。他们总是想得太多,绝非想得太慢。

关于“自私”处女座的自私觉不是狮子的那种惟我独尊,也不是水瓶的以自我为中心。处女座正因为是无私的,所以显得自私。(能够理解吗?)因为处女不想伤害任何人。

关 于“逃避”由于处女座性格上的因素,他们通常会显得压力很大。当周遭的事物已无法掌控,或是自己的情绪无法调节好时,他们会疯狂地逃避,堕落自己,这种状 况通常对别人无害,却是伤害自己,让所有爱他们的人感到心碎。不过不用太担心,过一阵子他们自己会好的,他们天性的自我批判精神很快便会起作用。处女座一 般不会彻底堕落,堕落前可能都已留有余地,只是在等待着希望的来临。甚至有时堕落都是做给别人看的。

关于“内涵”处女座有涵养这一点是肯定的。在成长中不断吸取教训,不断学习,取人之长来丰富自己的内涵。因为他们感觉到情绪无法把握,而这些是自己可以踏踏实实做到的,将来一定有帮助。这是他们所追求的完美主义目标。

处女座就是一个表面神秘到难以琢磨,说穿了却又很简单的星座。最接近神的人?可能吧,处女座喜欢这样
来标榜自己。因为他们确实有超凡脱俗的一面。他们的内心接近了神,可是身在这个世界,不能不食人间烟火吧,所以必须得戴着一个面具活在这个世界上。

处女座喜欢和人说些暧昧的话,对心仪的对象却不好意思表白。
处女座希望别人了解自己,却又只将能公布的那一部分对外展示。
处女座是最有责任感的人了,可很多时候却害怕承担责任。


金牛座
幽默是金牛的天赋

与 一般星座书上描写的金牛们相反,其实金牛座非常具有幽默感。他们天生就有搞笑的才能,善于制造轻松的氛围,不要再将牛牛们认为成是一群僵硬腐化的人,相反 他们很可爱。还记得在《满城尽带黄金甲》的发布会场上不断耍宝的金牛发哥吗?他的幽默感绝对令资深娱记也大跌眼镜,人缘好不是随便说说的,金牛座有着宽厚 的胸怀。

其实他们有着叛逆的灵魂

金牛基本上看起来都是乖孩子,仿佛脚踏实地,固执老实,但是,谁曾想到,其实 他们的内心都有着一个小邪魔在作祟?他们虽然是一板一眼的生活,但是在他们的内心里却喜欢着调皮的恶作剧。不要金牛们想象的太沉闷,他们其实内心五彩斑 斓,而且特别钟意制造出各种人生的小小乐趣。也正是这样叛逆的灵魂,让有些金牛让人吃惊。所以,一般的容貌姣好的乖乖女,或者一般人理想中的文静男,其 实,都不属于金牛的鉴赏范围,他们总会奇异的喜欢些标新立异的人。这点在金牛男上表现的较为突出,也因此而衍生出不少瓶女和牛男的佳话吧。

思考是金牛的具象

在贪图享乐的外表下,金牛有一颗哲学家的心。他们看问题的方法与众不同,他们有着唯物主义的思考逻辑,不会轻易人云亦云,也正因为如此,他们让人觉得固执非常。

但是千万不要因为固执就否认金牛们的智慧,有马克思,列宁,康德……为证,金牛们完整的理性思维往往能建立严密体系,只是有时候他们太容易钻牛角尖!不过即使是钻牛角尖的牛牛也具有鲜明的个人特质,李敖就是这类金牛的代表:)

务实的人生不需要浪漫武装

跟牛牛生活是一件比较乏味的事情,如果你钟爱浪漫的仪式。

因为牛牛无论金钱或者生活,他们都踏着务实的步伐。他们不会轻易说我爱你,他们不会随便送花,他们甚至不记得你的生日,更别提情人节等什么形而上的各种纪念日,这让人大为光火。因为没有了形式的爱情,又怎么能证明是爱情呢?

但是,金牛们会告诉你,其实有时候真正的帮助其实好过鲜花香水,有时候挺身而出的担当其实胜过所有的甜言蜜语。所以金牛们的爱情,也许让人闷到感觉不出火花,但是,在贫乏的爱的表象下,却藏着他们深刻的滴水不漏而且日久弥坚的关怀。

享乐人生的信仰

金 牛们懂得生活。他们虽然很执著,但是该放弃的时候,他们并没有太多犹豫。从利益出发考量的方式,让他们在现实生活中相当的如鱼得水,而懂得平衡自己的贪 念,而追求物质的享受和一心的宁静,是金牛座中的极品。这样的金牛能够在逆境中坦然,在顺境中懂得顺应。他们有着预见性的智慧,使人生得到完整的规划。在 适当的时候寻求闲适,所以金牛座很少有面临困境无法自拔的困兽,他们相当的懂得自我调节和生活。他们有着自己的节奏。

能够轻松生活的智者

金牛们在星座排行中表现一般,但是其实他们都很出色,金牛座的孩子往往是班干部,金牛座的爸爸妈妈都是模范爸妈,他们在生活中尽职尽责,富有责任感,虽然有时候稍嫌古板,但是正是他们撑起了所谓规矩的框架。

严肃生活认真思考却有能享有生活乐趣的金牛们其实非常可爱,当然,如果他们不那么市侩,那就更好了!


巨蟹座
巨蟹是心软的,容易被感动,即使表面看起来总是有一副硬硬的壳,但那壳子底下是一颗柔软敏感到极至的内心。它们面对一份感情是犹豫再三的,不要说它们懦弱,它们只是明白自己是容易受伤的。他们对感情抱有信仰,相信纯真、相信天长地久,所以有时是挑剔的。

这是一层表面坚硬的壳,其实攻克轻而易举,因为蟹蟹有一颗柔软的心。

蟹蟹恋爱了,这时的它们变的很粘人,很婆妈,因为你是它的中心,它会为你考虑很多,饭吃了吗?天气会变了吗?记得带伞哦!路上车多,慢点走哦!……..诸如此类!

蟹 蟹是深情而痴情的,爱上一个人会爱的很深,即使明知道没有结果也很难自拔。这是巨蟹的一种固执,想要得到的东西,往往不会轻易放手。有时,一段没有结果的 恋情会成为蟹蟹的生活重心。这无疑是痛苦的,但又难以自拔。然而,巨蟹的不安全感又在内心大叫着放弃,所以这时的蟹蟹总是在坚持和放弃的巨大矛盾中苦苦煎 熬着。学会放弃是蟹蟹的一门功课.

当然,如果蟹蟹真的决定放弃了,它的坚决会让所有人吃惊。
要记住:除了你自己,没有人可以伤害到你
蟹子是痴情的,但又不善于表达,面对自己心爱的人拘谨、放不开。它们的幽默感此刻变得生涩。
蟹子是深情的,但又不善于把握,为什么一次次控制不住自己的情绪,说出明知不该讲的话?

分 裂而善于幻想的寄居蟹在说巨蟹之前,先说说几个一直以来欣赏的几个偶像,他们都不同,但他们有一个共同点,就是,他们都是巨蟹男。周星驰,王家卫,罗大

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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

☆心打開,才會遇見對的人☆


心打開,才會遇見對的人
拿掉他所有條件,你還願意跟他,就表示他是值得你愛的人。

陳月卿
星座:巨蟹座
婚姻:已婚,婚齡19年
資歷:前華視新聞主播,曾經主持《華視新聞雜誌》《天涯若比鄰》《放眼看天下》等節目,得過五座金鐘獎。
著作:《全食物密碼》《全食物再發現》
現職:作家、電視節目主持人、婦女救援基金會董事、新健康飲食推廣義工

「我們到桃源街吃晚飯,飯後散步到中山堂附近,坐在人行椅上,他會靠在我的肩膀上休息,」陳月卿柔柔地說著,她和夫婿──國安局秘書長蘇起的生活點滴。

明年是他們步上紅毯後的第二十個年頭,由陳月卿來回答「如何嫁對老公」,最適合不過了。

嫁對人很重要,經營婚姻更重要

蘇起是否符合陳月卿心目中白馬王子的條件呢?「我從不去 想會嫁什麼樣的人,緣分到了,自然就會出現。重要的是選擇妳所愛,愛妳所選擇的。」

她認為找到好老公很難,每個人的好都不一樣,要選合適的人才重要。她引述作家羅蘭的話:「婚姻就像鞋,有的明明是雙好鞋,可是會打腳。穿上去舒不舒服才是重點。」

「嫁對人很重要,經營婚姻更重要,」一位是衝鋒陷陣的新聞工作者,一位是服膺「定、靜、安、慮、得」儒家思想的官員、學者,他們的家庭生活是什麼光景?

一九八七年,陳月卿和蘇起因相親而認識,兩年後結婚,這次婚姻是兩人的第二春。當時也有人介紹其他異性朋友,而陳月卿情歸蘇起,是因兩人有相同的價值觀、興趣,同樣都是政大畢業、外 省第二代的背景,更重要的是,「我們聊得來,很能溝通。」

吵架三原則不可犯,夫妻謹守底線

她為自己找到可以談心的對象而高興,她的老師卻潑她冷水,「男人結了婚就會變的,」陳月卿信誓旦旦地說,「蘇起不一樣,他不會變。」

婚後,他們就和一般夫妻一樣進入磨合期,「誰該倒垃圾、誰該洗碗、我也上班,為何我做比較多,」這樣的問題常常出現。

不出老師所料,他們也不溝通了,蘇起認為該說的話在婚前都說完了,「沒問題就不用溝通,『我愛妳』說多了就不值錢,」陳月卿卻認為「不溝通就會有問題,而且愛要說出來,我才知道你在想什麼啊。」

後來陳月卿發現,蘇起不說甜言蜜語,並不是不愛她,而是他認為說出口的話都是承諾,不可隨便說說。

他們約法三章,吵架有 三原則不可犯:不能掛電話、不能摔盤子、不能說離婚。結婚以來,不管吵得多兇,他們謹守這條底線。不過,通常是蘇起冷靜的離開吵架現場。

蘇起誠心讚美,陳月卿甘心下廚

「我的居家本性是被蘇起誘發的,」雖然陳月卿的星座是以居家著稱的巨蟹座。

蘇起喜歡待在家裡,堅持在家吃飯。交往時,蘇起曾經問她:「會不會做飯?」陳月卿回他:「聰明的人學什麼都快。」

婚後第二天,蘇起「示範」了一桌好菜,讓陳月卿感受在家吃飯的溫暖,「不過,他就做那麼一次,」她笑著說如何被哄下廚,而且是心甘情願,因為不管她煮得如何,即使半生不熟、味道不對,蘇起都是面帶微笑吃下去,然後說「在家吃飯最幸福了」。

蘇起告訴陳月卿最希望回家時有一盞燈是亮的。結果點那盞燈的人經常 是蘇起,等著晚歸的陳月卿回家,「有人點燈等我回家,感覺好好。」從此她喜歡往外跑的個性漸漸收斂。

「不要怕付出,不要以為下一個男人會更好,」這是陳月卿的婚姻經營之道,「要常常讚美另一半,」就像她無論做什麼,蘇起永遠給予讚美。即使不做飯上館子吃飯,也會稱讚她很會點菜。早上起床還沒刷牙、洗臉,蘇起會讚美她,「老婆,妳好迷人。」

婚姻只有雙輸或雙贏,不可能單方勝利

夫妻之間要彼此尊重。陳月卿說,如果要請老公做事,不要用命令的口氣。她以自己為例,有一天,她告訴蘇起,「我好喜歡接送小孩,在車上和小孩獨處時,我們講好多好多話喔。」結果隔天,蘇起早早起床,他說要送小孩上學。
信任是婚姻的基石。蘇起給陳月卿最大的信任和安全感。他們每天會定時通電 話,有了孩子以後,還是會營造兩人世界,一個月約會一次。

夫妻角色也會因狀況而調整。當陳月卿忙著出書、演講,蘇起對她說:「我會好好照顧家庭的。」而當蘇起入閣忙於公事,她就會擔起大部份家事,讓他無後顧之憂。

在這段婚姻,蘇起的最大貢獻,就是讓她愛上運動、喜歡居家生活,改變急躁的脾氣,腳步開始放慢,生命不再只是工作而已。有時候,陳月卿在家用新聞人急迫的口氣說話時,蘇起會提醒她,不要把工作情緒帶回家。「把我安定下來,是他最大成就。」

她的豁達、開朗是從蘇起身上學到的。「我看到他真誠的一面,他的言行都符合佛家思想,原來佛家所說的是行得通的,」雖然蘇起不是佛教徒,陳月卿卻因他而信佛。

難怪,眼前這位曾經拿過五座金鐘獎,訪問過無數名人的 昔日華視當家主播,眼神不見犀利,只有溫柔與詳和。

而個性內斂的蘇起,在陳月卿「調教」之下,現在每天都要和家人親親抱抱,而且是用力擁抱,他要讓家人感受到他的愛。

「婚姻應該是1加1大於2,讓雙方變更好,在婚姻裡只有雙輸或雙贏,不可能單方勝利的。」這是陳月卿的肺腑之言,因為她的幸福得來不易。

蘇起罹患肝癌,陳月卿人生大轉彎

時間要回到一九九一年五月。當時兩年的婚姻磨合期加上流產的打擊,陳月卿到美國短期進修時,開始思索婚姻的意義。然而蘇起的一通越洋電話,打亂了她的行程,自稱患有「工作上癮症」的陳月卿,人生順位重新排序。

「我得到肝癌,」電話那頭蘇起的語氣平靜,也叫陳月卿不必趕回家,繼續完成行程,「他是體貼我才這麼說的」。

為了 確定病情,她打電話回台灣問醫生,「肝臟上的腫瘤很少是良性的,」聽到醫生的回答,她當下決定回台,放棄到美國哥倫比亞廣播公司「六十分鐘」節目、CNN實習,為工作生涯加分的大好機會。

在紐約機場,她和送行同伴相擁而泣,為了蘇起的病,也為了人生這個突然出現的轉彎。

天天喝精力湯,拾回全家人健康

陳月卿回台後,辭去忙碌的電視節目製作人工作,以家庭為重,展開夫妻倆的抗癌大作戰。為了養生抗癌,她開始發揮新聞工作者的精神,研讀國內外健康飲食書籍,也當起神農,嘗試各種飲食方法。

《食物是最好的醫藥》一書是她的聖經,她相信「食物就是你的藥,藥物並不能帶來健康,心靈喜悅會帶來身體的健康......」而《用營養擊退癌症》一書裡所提的「全果汁」營養概念,讓她從 此埋頭研究「精力湯」。

妳會常常在電視上看到陳月卿賣力介紹精力湯,那是他們全家人每天飲用的聖品,讓蘇起的肝癌不再復發,連原本是藥罐子的她,做身體檢查時,醫生都告訴她,腸胃漂亮得像嬰兒。那麼好的東西,當然要告訴更多人。

從電視主播,變成養生達人

人生的每個轉彎,都是新的起點。她感謝二○○四年逼她離開工作崗位的人,因為他們的逼退,陳月卿才能擁有現在的一片天。

二○○五年及二○○七年,她集結自身的體驗,出版兩本養生暢銷書,從主播變成養生達人。

在二○○五年的新書發表會上,蘇起上台致詞感謝妻子為他所付出的一切時大哭,令在場人士為之動容。「假如她生病的話,我恐怕沒有辦法花那麼多力氣來照顧她,她的事業也在高峰啊,說放開就放開。」
一心只想生孩子,讓蘇起有求生意志

樂觀的陳月卿,從沒想過會失去蘇起,只想到如何讓他活下去。除了改變飲食,在蘇起還沒度過肝癌復發危險期,一九九四年,她生女兒,一九九七年,她生兒子,「我一心只想生個孩子,讓我先生有求生意志。」

如果妳聽到有人在丈夫罹癌後,不離不棄,還生下兩個孩子,只為了激起他的求生意志,這是笨女人,還是真愛?

人有時候好像必須藉由老天給的考驗,才知愛的深度。曾在紐約思索婚姻意義的陳月卿,原來愛蘇起如此深。「當你拿掉他所有條件,你還願意跟他,就表示他是值得你愛的人。」

該如何像陳月卿覓得良緣、嫁對的人呢?「心打開,才會遇見對的人;選合適的人,不是最好的人;女性要獨立,無論是情緒上還是經濟上,自己的喜怒不要依附在 別人身上,不要因為對方沒讚美妳就生氣;要有能力付出,不能只是一味要求;給自己一個角落,也給別人空間;不要想改變別人,不要以為婚後他會為妳改變......」陳月卿不吝惜地告訴大家她的秘訣。

採訪尾聲,問她蘇起是什麼類型的老公?「他EQ高,有智慧,成熟穩健,有愛心,有責任感,孝順顧家,具有專業、人文素養......」陳月卿的答案多到超出選擇範圍,看她談到蘇起時的眼神,你會以為她是熱戀或新婚的女人。

誰說婚姻是戀愛的墳墓呢?

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Friday, July 31, 2009

New Office

This is my new workstation in new office. Just a few floors up from the current one. Still same building same location and still in KL and still have to stuck in traffic jam! haha. Nothing much I have in my desk. What I need is stock up some food. kekeke

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Thursday, July 30, 2009

All Work And No Rest all for what?

A long time ago, there was an Emperor who told his horseman that if he could ride on his horse and cover as much land area as he likes, then the Emperor would give him the area of land he has covered.

Sure enough, the horseman quickly jumped onto his horse and rode as fast as possible to cover as much land area as he could.  He kept on riding and riding, whipping the horse to go as fast as possible.

When he was hungry or tired, he did not stop because he wanted to cover as much area as possible.

Came to a point when he had covered a substantial area and he was exhausted and was dying.

Then he asked himself,  "Why did I push myself so hard to cover so much land area? Now I am dying and I only need a very small area to bury myself."

The above story is similar with the journey of our Life. We push very hard everyday to make more money, to gain power and recognition. We neglect our health, time with our family and to appreciate the surrounding beauty and the hobbies we love.

One day when we look back, we will realize that we don't really need that much, but then we cannot turn back time for what we have missed.

Life is not about making money, acquiring power or recognition.
Life is definitely not about work!
Work is only necessary to keep us living so as to enjoy the beauty and pleasures of life.
Life is a balance of Work and Play, Family and Personal time.
You have to decide how you want to balance your Life.

Define your priorities, realize what you are able to compromise but always let some of your decisions be based on your instincts.
Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of Life, the whole aim of human existence.

So, take it easy, do what you want to do and appreciate nature. Life is fragile , Life is short. Do not take Life for granted. Live a balanced lifestyle and enjoy Life!

Watch your thoughts; they become  words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character.

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.


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Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Sis New House

My sisters in Perth just bought a new house. They are moving in soon in 2 weeks time. I can't wait visit them and stay in the new house! What's cool is the house with swimming pool! See the pic!!

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Tuesday, July 28, 2009

I was pissed

Because of someone's conveniences I have to sacrifice. Heard about ppl's happiness build on other's pain? By this morning I still pissed until I wrote an email out to voice out my situation. Things get better after. The wonder of my email. Pissed because I lost 2 permanent classes for 1 class but end up I didn't get any. Lucky I got xpeace advice me to send an email to tell the story. Lucky I did, else I will not have it back.

Last night I felt appreciate by gym members. I let go yesterday's class because of the opportunity given else where (at first I don get the class but now I got it back). However how I wish I can have both at the same time which I suppose to have. But now is the fact so I have to choose one. The monday class @ Jaya33 last night was my 2nd and last time taught there. I enjoyed it. Hope the members do as well. Met one of the member that joined the class later, she recognize me, talked to me and ask me will she sees me next week. Suppose I can tell her "yeah, you will see me 2 weeks later as I will alternating the class". But too bad I have to say "sorry dear, it was my last time teaching here, starting next month will not be me anymore". It sad right? You know that someone looking forward for your class but you don't have one for them. She even introduce herself to me and ask my name. Said will see me next time if see me. so nice :)

Another member met in the gym last night who used to join my cardio wave class in jaya33 on Friday. The class was cut due to cost cutting. She came and ask me, why never see me teach anymore. I told her the truth. Then she said why no teach again. She some more said my class fun. And she only join mine and the other wave instructor's class on other day. I feel flattered hearing this. Although no longer teaching cardio wave but still got member remember me and wish I teach back can make you feel grateful. There is another time I replaced cardio wave 2 weeks back, told them just replacement and only day I teach. One of the girl ask me why don't teach cardio wave, ask me teach lah. But I have no choice to tell her no class for me so I don't teach lor. Happy that at least got members appreciate me. It is a big motivation for the passion. I know there are preferences for anybody. I hope I can be their preference all the while. Will do all my best.

I'm quite nervous for next week onwards taking over the class offered. I hope I can maintain it, bring my best to the class. wish me luck. *finger cross*

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Tuesday, July 21, 2009

So You Think You Can Dance Get Fit: Cardio Funk

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So You Think You Can Dance Get Fit - Travis leads a workout routine

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So You Think You Can Dance Get Fit: Tone and Groove

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Tuesday, July 14, 2009

What is Love & Marriage

One of the best explanations of Love & Marriage.......



One day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is love? How can I find it?"

His teacher answered, "There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk

forward without turning back, and pick only one stalk. If you find the

most magnificent stalk, then you have found love." Plato walked

forward, and before long, he returned with empty hands, having picked

nothing.



His teacher asked, "Why did you not pick any stalk?" Plato answered,

"Because I could only pick once, and yet I could not turn back. I did

find the most magnificent stalk, but did not know if there were any

better ones ahead, so I did not pick it. As I walked further, the

stalks that I saw were not as good as the earlier one, so I did not

pick any in the end.



His teacher then said, "And that is love."



On another day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is marriage? How can I

find it?" His teacher answered, "There is a thriving forest in front.

Walk forward without turning back, and chop down only one tree. If you

find the tallest tree, then you have found marriage".



Plato walked forward, and before long, he returned with a tree. The

tree was not thriving, and it was not tall either. It was only an

ordinary tree. His teacher asked "Why did you chop down such an

ordinary tree?" Plato answered, "Because of my previous experience. I

had walked through the field, but returned with empty hands. This

time, I saw this tree, and I felt that it was not bad, so I chopped it

down and brought it back. I did not want to miss the opportunity."



His teacher then said, "And that is marriage. You see son, Love is the

most beautiful thing to happen to a person, it's an opportunity but

you don't realise its worth when you have it but only when it's gone

like the field of stalks. Marriage like the tree you chopped, it's a

compromise."

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Monday, July 13, 2009

A Small Touching Story

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his
5-year old son waiting for him at the door.

SON: 'Daddy, may I ask you a question?'

DAD: 'Yeah sure, what is it?' replied the man.

SON: 'Daddy, how much do you make an hour?'

DAD: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?'
the man said angrily.

SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an
hour?'

DAD: 'If you must know, I make RM 100 an hour.'

SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.

SON: 'Daddy, may I please borrow RM 50?'

The father was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you
can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then
you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about
why you are being so selfish. I work hard every day for such this
childish behavior.'

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little
boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some
money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down and started to
think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that
Rs.50 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to
the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
'Are you asleep, son?' He asked.


'No daddy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.

'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the
man.

'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the
Rs.50 you asked for.'

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you daddy!' He
yelled.

Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.
The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry
again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up
at his father.

'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the father
grumbled.

'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.

'Daddy, I have RM 100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time?

Please come home early tomorrow I would like to have dinner with you'

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he
begged for his forgiveness.

It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We
should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some
time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.

Do remember to share that RM 100 worth of your time with someone you
love.

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily
replace us in a matter of days.

But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the
rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than to our family.

Value Relationships!!!!

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MAYONNAISE JAR AND 2 CUPS OF COFFEE

When things in your life seem almost too much to
Handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough,
Remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had
Some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very
Large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill
It with golf balls. He then asked the students if the
Jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and
Poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the
Golf balls. He then asked the students again if the
Jar was full they agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of San! D and p oured
It into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up
Everything else. He asked once more if the jar was
Full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from
Under the table and poured the entire contents into
The jar, effectively filling the empty space between
The sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided,
"I want you to recognize that this jar represents
Your life. The golf balls are the important things-
God, family, children, health,
Friends, and your favorite passions--things that if
Everything else was lost and only they remained your
Life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your
Job, your house, and your car.

The sand is everything else -- the small stuff.

If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued,
"there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The! Same G oes for life. If you spend all your time
And energy on the small stuff, you will never have
Room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your
Happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get
Medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner.
There will always be time to clean
The house and fix the disposal."

Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that
Really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just
Sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what
The coffee represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just
Goes to show you that no matter how full your life may
Seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of
Coffee with a friend."

Please share this with someone you care about.

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Sunday, July 12, 2009

FOX Broadcasting Company: So You Think You Can Dance

I am watching this! love it!!

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Tuesday, July 07, 2009

TweetDeck

another one!! also update twitter from desktop. also check FB status. what else? not sure yet...still exploring :D

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Seesmic · Build Your Community

Just installed Seesmic Desktop...it can see updates from Twitter and FB! one of the tool...exploring others as well...more coming

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My 1st Post in Posterous

Not sure how to use this...trying now

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Tuesday, June 23, 2009

I'm on Newspaper!

The BodyStep miracle launch team appears in The Sun newspaper today. I'm inside! hehe
come have a look online version
or the one I took from newspaper :D

Thursday, June 11, 2009

This Coming Weekend Schedule

Saturday - Miracle Launch
9am - BS rehearsal
10-11am - prepare, dress up
11:10am - BS show time

12-1pm - BJ rehearsal
after that lunch lah...merayau-rayau around the curve...will be very sien and tired I can foresee.
6pm - BJ show time
after dinner lah...that's it for whole day.
Sunday
11:45am - BJ class @ Taipan
3:30pm - BS replacement class @ Pavilion
5pm - BJ tuition @ Jaya33
6pm - BJ launch practice

after that dinner lah...I wish to skip BS replacement class...now still cari-ing ppl...finger cross
it's super duper exhausted weekend ahead!

It became history!!

Just got to know it is just collapsed yesterday. It became history and I've seen the history! A bit sad that it no longer exist as what it is. But lucky that I was there to see it and took a picture. It was beautiful. But that's how nature evolve and it still another piece of nature art work. Just different look and different view. Read the news below and that's the headline pic.
 
Below are the pics I took. It calls The Razorback is located at Loch Ard Gorge lookout point.

If you plan go Melbourne gotta go asap lor....because other rocks collapse..

Miracle Launch 2009

 
This saturday is the day. I'm involved this time. for 2 programs. bstep and bjam. I thought both programs just involve 2-3 tracks. But last minute changed on yesterday first bstep practice. I've gotta do more than what assigned earlier. A bit stressed as i'm the newest girl stepper among the team. 2 other lady super senior and one of them is trainer wor. gotta be look good. gotta practice more.stresseedddd.... I will do my best for sure. finger cross. haha
so hope to see u guys there...kan cheong liao...let's join the class for charity.